Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts

Friday, January 29, 2010

Challenge Day 3

Well to start I will recap how Thursday went. My husband was out of town for work last night. Therefore, I could not really greet him at the door with a hug. Instead I sent him text messages and facebook messages letting him know how much I missed him. Hopefully it worked...Hard to tell just over the phone.

So onto today's challenge:
Lesson #3 - Tonight make his favorite meal or dessert. (Or both!) Proverbs 31:15 says, "She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls".
You are making deposits into your marriage. During this two week period be prepared for your husband to do something unloving. You have greeted him, hugged him, & made his favorite meal, but later he yells at you for moving his keys. Ignore it. Don't throw your hands up saying, "Respecting you doesn't work. You are as unloving as ever." You are fasting from complaining for two weeks. Lower your expectations. You can't expect him to change in every area of his life because you did three nice things. Do this for God & not for your husband. God commands you to do this.

I invite you to take this one step further. As I sit here & type this I realize that I am guilty of something that I could do a little better. I am sitting in sweatpants, a tee shirt, no makeup, & messy hair. We would never have been seen this when we were dating. Thank God our husbands still think that we are beautiful when we are a mess. However, from time to time we should put a little extra effort into looking our best for him. I am going to be doing this challenge & all of the others along with you because I need to work on my marriage at the same time. I need to continue to strive to be the very best wife that I can be. I invite you to not only make his favorite meal or dessert but to also take a shower, put on a little makeup, set the table nice, & show him that you have gone out of your way to make him feel special.


As for today it has been very challenging to me. I woke up and did not feel real well, sore throat, sneezing, all that good stuff. Then on top of that we have had some winter weather here in Arkansas. Normally on Fridays I am out of school and will take Jayci to preschool and come home do schoolwork and clean up. Well today was a different story. Schools were closed so that meant Jayci was home with me. Which was wonderful, however; not feeling well and it being icy outside made me just want to stay in my pajamas all day. Honestly, I did get out of my pajamas but only to put on some yoga pants and a semi-cute t-shirt. I know I know...I should have gotten dressed but anyway....I did make dinner. I made a very good chicken spaghetti. Not like normal chicken spaghetti but like breaded chicken breast, a marinara sauce, and bow-tie pasta. Trust me it is yummy! My husband loves it and we hadn't had it in a while so I decided to make it. Well, here comes another challenge. 1) Roads are icy 2) we didn't have all the stuff to make the for mentioned chicken spaghetti. Well I was not going to get myself and our daughter out on the dangerous roads so I called my husband and asked him to pick up just a few items that we needed.

All in all I hope that he enjoyed the dinner. I really feel like he did but it's hard to tell when I am feeling like poo and just want to be taken care of. Oh I did do the dishes that were in the sink. I know that doesn't sound like a big deal but I absolutely LOATH doing dishes. We don't have a dishwasher and I really just hate it so my husband does them 99% of the time.

I will say that we could have gotten on the "Cycle" several times tonight. Jay was tired from being out of town and not sleeping well last night; I was tired and not feeling well. Those two things usually just don't mix. However, I really practiced just speaking in a nice calm voice and not letting little things get to me. I am praying that God keeps leading me in a new way. I want to do this challenge in a Godly way not just a "good wife/human" way.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

14 Day "Love & Respect" Challenge

I have started following this Women's Marriage Ministry Blog. I am really really enjoying reading it. It just gives me a way to read how another woman struggles in her marriage, life, kids, and her daily walk with God.

I have recently blogged about mine and my husband's relationship and how we have struggled through these last few years of Nursing School. If I'm really being honest we have been married 4 years and have had struggles through out. I feel like we are really doing a lot better in our communication skills and relationship overall than we ever did in the beginning of out marriage. However, there is just still something missing. I know a lot of it is me. I know I need to change in some of my ways. My husband is fabulous, yes of course I could point out several faults, but I'm not going to do that. This challenge is about me and my relationship with my husband and working my hardest to be a Godly Wife. So here is the challenge:

Lesson #1 - Tonight or tomorrow when your spouse comes home, greet them at the door. Don't yell from another room. Physically meet them at the door. Let them know that you missed them today. (even if you didn't) I have started doing this with Adam & he absolutely loves it. Honestly, so do I. I feel much more special when I feel that everyone is happy to see me. If this is not possible to do it this way due to your schedules, then be sure to make him feel like you missed him & you are happy to see him when you are face to face.

I accomplished this task today. My husband was surprised needless to say. His exact quote was, "What was that for?" My response, "Just because I love you." When I first read the challenge for today I was like ugh I really do not want to do that. Not because I don't love my husband but because I felt kind of silly. After it was done I felt really good. It made me feel really connected to him. I know he enjoys giving me a kiss and telling me hello when he gets home but it is just not that important to me. This made me really tap into something that is important to him. In the end I didn't feel silly at all. In fact, I felt so happy to know that I was doing something that would show him how much I appreciate him.

Now just to keep going with this and add other tasks on top of it!